Does your husband see the heart of Christ in you?

Steve and I have been reading a book on marriage together. Last night we were reading a section on communication, which we honestly don’t have much of a problem with. We talk to each other about everything! I was actually surprised at how open he is, after hearing so many women complain about their husband’s lack of communication. I am certainly a blessed woman!


At the end of the section were some questions to ask yourself to improve your relationship. I was struck by one of the questions directed towards wives; “If someone were to ask my husband, would he be able to say honestly, ‘Being with this woman strengthens my relationship with God.’ Could he say ‘I have seen the heart of Christ in her’?” Wow! That is a little frightening to think about! Are there things I am doing to draw him away from God, or do I actively try to encourage his walk with God? What a tremendous responsibility this is!

So now I have been thinking of ways that I can help him strengthen his relationship with the Lord. The first, and most obvious, thing I came up with was to strengthen my own relationship with God. If I make my relationship with God my first priority, I truly believe that the other relationships in my life will fall into their proper places. I have found that I tend to have my devotional or study time during the day, when Steve is at work. I enjoy the quiet time, with no distractions. However, I have realized that I should take some time when he is home as well, to encourage him. We sometimes tend to focus on us when he gets home, talking about our day and such. Now I realize I should do some of this when he is home . It could be a way to encourage him without having to say a word.

I know I have a long way to go – after all, we have not even been married a year yet! So I have a question for you: How do you strengthen your husband’s relationship with the Lord? What things do you do to encourage him specifically in this area? Can you share any advice for other wives who want to encourage their husbands?